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Monday, May 16, 2011

Get married first, then date all you want~~


First of all, the rest of the post is mostly taken off here. Please take note that they're not my writing~! However, whatever excerpts I paste here are the parts that I very much agree with and also similar to the way I feel/think. And those in parentheses are my annotations. *This is merely just to share an interesting piece of writing with everyone.. Don't take it to heart in whatever that is written.

I understand that you are not ‘crazy’ enough to just jump into a marriage without knowing who your partner really is. So in the end, this "kahwin dulu, baru dating" trend becomes an exclusive thing among people who are active in da'wah and jemaah,(haha, I laughed when I read this but it is pretty true~) while the Muslim masses are walking together holding hands or ‘hanging out’ at malls, etc.

I am simply pointing out that romantic passion has nothing to do about spoting the ‘right person’ in your life. It is also true that incompatibility may happen between two persons, like there is just no chemistry between the two of you. The point is, you don’t need to go on countless hang outs to spot that. (Yes, this is so true indeed. Like you can't tell that you don't get along well with a person just through one meet? It's either you "ngam" with that person or you just don't. That "ngam" is sort of similar to "chemistry", if you're wondering bout that term. And by the way, this "chemistry" that I'm talking about isn't just referring to "that" chemistry but also the chemistry of friendship~! Take this for an example, almost every individual have a best friend or a buddy; and yes, YOU DO HAVE GREAT CHEMISTRY WITH THAT PERSON~! IF NOT FOR THAT, TRUST ME, YOU WOULD'NT BE SO CLOSE TO HIM/HER~! Hope you get the drift~~)

It is common sense(I second that): You sit down and talk with a person for 15 minutes and you’ll know whether you can get along with that person or not. I am talking in general, meaning even with a stranger who you want to make him as your friend, not just your life partner. As for the opposite gender, more than that, it is the evil desire from your nafsu. Of course, if you are still in doubt, go through the person’s ‘CV’, find peer opinion or recommendation about that person, observe her/him in public, and so on and so forth, as long as it is according to the syariah

Ride them with oxytocin, not dopamine, ok? (If you're not understanding this statement, it's cos it's out of context here. Go read the entire article if your interested to comprehend this bit. haha) Above all, bring along taqwa, inshaAllah it will be pretty smooth sailing.

WAllahua'lam bis sawab



aeshcame said...

nice post~ like to read your writings~ even if you did just copy & paste it..thx for sharing =)

nieyna_90 said...

asslmualaikum wbt,
may I know what the means of "Ride them with oxytocin, not dopamine"..
hihi..i'm really weak to understand 'deep meaning jokes'..becoz i'm a straigtht person.(~~).

Liana said...

salam alaiki ukhti nieyna_90:

kalau nak faham ayat ni, kena faham istilah dahulu:

Dopamine – Dopamine is a neurotrasmitter and it has many functions in the brain. Most importantly, dopamine is central to the reward system. Dopamine is commonly associated with the pleasure system of the brain, providing feelings of enjoyment and reinforcement to motivate a person proactively to perform certain activities. Dopamine is released by naturally rewarding experiences such as food and sex. Disruption to the dopamine system has also been strongly linked to psychosis and schizoprenia, with abnormally high dopamine action apparently leading to these conditions. Now you can see the link between sex/romantic passion and psychosis.

Oxytocin – Oxytocin is a mamalian hormone that also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. In the brain, oxytocin is involved in social recognition and bonding, and might be involved in the formation of trust between people. Oxytocin is also an important hormone for women for various reasons, but in this article I am focusing on the function of oxytocin in the brain.

Jadi, kita ckp "ride them with oxytocin, not dopamine" just to point out that lebih penting kita dahulukan hormon oxytocin kalau nak perkahwinan yg tahan lama. kalau kita dahulukan dopamine, ini bermaksud kita fokuskan kepada nafs dlm perhubungan/perkahwinan - ini selalunya akan menuju ke arah perkahwinan yg tidak tahan lama..

harap2 enti dah faham. kalau x, ana boleh terangkan dgn lebih baik=)

salam dan shukran membaca~