First of all, the rest of the post is mostly taken off here. Please take note that they're not my writing~! However, whatever excerpts I paste here are the parts that I very much agree with and also similar to the way I feel/think. And those in parentheses are my annotations. *This is merely just to share an interesting piece of writing with everyone.. Don't take it to heart in whatever that is written.
I understand that you are not ‘crazy’ enough to just jump into a marriage without knowing who your partner really is. So in the end, this "kahwin dulu, baru dating" trend becomes an exclusive thing among people who are active in da'wah and jemaah,(haha, I laughed when I read this but it is pretty true~) while the Muslim masses are walking together holding hands or ‘hanging out’ at malls, etc.
I am simply pointing out that romantic passion has nothing to do about spoting the ‘right person’ in your life. It is also true that incompatibility may happen between two persons, like there is just no chemistry between the two of you. The point is, you don’t need to go on countless hang outs to spot that. (Yes, this is so true indeed. Like you can't tell that you don't get along well with a person just through one meet? It's either you "ngam" with that person or you just don't. That "ngam" is sort of similar to "chemistry", if you're wondering bout that term. And by the way, this "chemistry" that I'm talking about isn't just referring to "that" chemistry but also the chemistry of friendship~! Take this for an example, almost every individual have a best friend or a buddy; and yes, YOU DO HAVE GREAT CHEMISTRY WITH THAT PERSON~! IF NOT FOR THAT, TRUST ME, YOU WOULD'NT BE SO CLOSE TO HIM/HER~! Hope you get the drift~~)
It is common sense(I second that): You sit down and talk with a person for 15 minutes and you’ll know whether you can get along with that person or not. I am talking in general, meaning even with a stranger who you want to make him as your friend, not just your life partner. As for the opposite gender, more than that, it is the evil desire from your nafsu. Of course, if you are still in doubt, go through the person’s ‘CV’, find peer opinion or recommendation about that person, observe her/him in public, and so on and so forth, as long as it is according to the syariah.
Ride them with oxytocin, not dopamine, ok? (If you're not understanding this statement, it's cos it's out of context here. Go read the entire article if your interested to comprehend this bit. haha) Above all, bring along taqwa, inshaAllah it will be pretty smooth sailing.
WAllahua'lam bis sawab